So in addition to hurt, anger and guilt, I now just feel normal again; single, in control, not bitter but guarded. The problem is that that normal is no longer the desired feeling. I was enjoying feeling special again….As I find myself evaluating this lose, I am annoyed that I genuinely miss him. But the thing that annoys me more is having to admit (and therefore address) that I miss us even more.
Romantic Cynic: Rebounding from Single?
We often tell ourselves that rebounds are acceptable as long as you recognize them as being just that, something to make yourself feel better and to eventually move past. Okay, okay. You get out of a relationship. You get to “play around” for a while. That’s simple enough. But what’s it called when you’re reintroducing yourself to the possibility of the opposite sex (or same, whatever works for you) after a not-so-brief hiatus? Are you allowed to rebound from a long-term relationship with yourself?
Romantic Cynic: Lustration
Whatever it is that reminds you of the (beautiful) things you’re missing in your current singledom, when it comes to the carnal, you’re most often left with feelings of lust and frustration. I call this uniquely annoying and potentially dangerous feeling “lustration”.
Romantic Cynic: A Face for the Fantasy
If there’s not enough personal material to pull from, you simply create it. (The beauty of a daydream) This provides those fleeting crushes (or infatuations depending on the situation) with yet another purpose: to serve as the face of your current fantasy.
